Have you ever said to yourself “I need more time!” Some days it seems that the hours escape us so quickly. There’s so much for a single mom to do, and somehow people think that we are Superwoman. We have to balance work, school, our children’s activities, church, and somehow fit in time for our own needs. Maybe you’ve heard, “How do you do all of this alone?” I’ll tell you one thing, it’s only by the grace of God that we are able to manage our time effectively. But we all know, the struggle is real!
If you’re like me, a single mom, a career-woman, a friend, the dependable one, the minutes, even seconds of the day are consumed with other people’s needs. But you don’t mind because you’re the strong one. You’ve always been seen this way, so why stop now? Well ladies, the truth is that we have to take care of ourselves before we can take care of anyone else. With that in mind let’s see how we can find more time in our day.
Pray: Ask God to direct your steps for the day. You may find that you will be redirected to do a certain task at a different time or not at all. Knowing that God cares enough about us to give us directions is comforting and should remove anxiety we may experience thinking about all of the tasks we have to complete. “The steps of a good man are ordered by the LORD, And He delights in his way.” Psalms 37:23
Time block: Develop your to-do-list within the timeframe of 24 hours a day. Be specific and detailed as possible when making your list. It may help to block out time in 15 minute increments for each our. This will help you prioritize your day and find the lost minutes you thought you didn’t have available to you.
Ask for help: Some of us think we can do it all but there are days when too much just becomes unbearable. Try not to wait until you’ve reached your breaking point when you have to ask for help. Utilize your support network. Ask a trusted friend or family member to help with your child/children for a few hours. Use that time to run errands or just to get some “me-time.”
Evaluate your commitments: As women we can sometimes over commit ourselves. We don’t have to do it all! Ask yourself, “Is this a life or death situation?” “Will this negatively affect my life if I miss this event?” And the most important question is, “Does God want me to do this?” We have to let go of some things in order to do and sometimes receive what God wants for us.
Schedule mandatory mommy-time: Ladies, it’s okay to take time away from your children and sometimes our kids need a break from us. We have to step back and recharge our batteries so we don’t lose control. Schedule 15-30 minutes in your day to relax, pray, pamper yourself., etc. Make a date with yourself.
I pray that this helps. If finding more time is a struggle for you, know that yare not alone. Hearts in Faith is heyto help. I leave you with this word as you Keep your Hearts in Faith…
“Trust in the LORD with all your heart, And lean not on your own understanding; In all your ways acknowledge Him, And He shall direct your paths.” Proverbs 3:5-6